To learn about stalking and the options available to stalking victims, contact
Center for Hope and Safety or Marion County Victim Assistance (phone numbers listed below). It is important to know the pros and cons and the proper ways to implement any of the available options for stalking victims. An inadequate safety plan or obtaining a protection order can place a victim in danger.
Keep a journal of when the stalker contacts you, where, when and what the stalker said or did. Keep anything that the stalker gives/sends to you: cards, letters, gifts and any recorded phone calls or messages. You may want to use them as evidence of the stalking. A printable journal is available here: Stalking Documentation Notebook
Tell trusted family, friends, neighbors and your employer that you are being stalked. Provide them with a picture/description of the stalker and any information you may have on the stalker. If you have children, provide the same information to the children’s school or day care.
Have a safety plan for yourself and members of your household. A safety plan should consist of an emergency exit from the home, a bag containing money, clothes, keys, legal paper work, cell phone, medications etc., and a safe location to go to with 24-hour access. Contact your local women’s crisis service or victim advocate program if you would like assistance in preparing a safety plan.
If the stalker knows your telephone number or email address, do not change or delete them. Save any voice mails, text messages, emails, or messages sent through social media or other phone or computer applications. These things may be used as evidence of the stalking. You may even want to print or make copies of these messages in case the electronic copy is lost. You may want to get a new phone number, email address, or social media account that is unknown to the stalker. Give your new information only to people that you trust, with instructions to not share it with anyone or leave it where other people could access it.
Do not have any contact with the stalker. If there is contact, try not to express any emotions, such as fear or anger. Also, do not have any relatives or friends confront the stalker. The stalker may perceive them as an obstacle in gaining access to you, which could make them a target.
Change your routine. A daily routine can make it easy for a stalker to find you. If possible, change your work/school hours, places that you frequent, such as: where you shop, attend church, bank, exercise or attend social activities.
Center for Hope and Safety or Marion County Victim Assistance. and ask about the Address Confidentiality Program. You may find more information about this program by clicking on this link:
Address Confidentiality Program
Contact agencies, such as the Department of Motor Vehicle, voters’ registrar office, utility companies, and mail order houses. Ask to have your information listed as confidential. Instead of using your physical address, use a P.O. box and list the box number as an apartment or suite. Send a change-of-address to everyone including family and friends.
Install an alarm system and/or buy a dog. A dog can be an effective alarm system. You may want to consider a breed that is known particularly for its loyalty.